Why he strays: Is he unhappy with you or with the sex?

Posted On: January 1, 2012

This article first appeared in the October 2011 issue of Health & Beauty magazine published in Malaysia. Click image to enlarge/ read. Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified […]

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All I want for Christmas is…

Posted On: December 27, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. It started as a post on my Facebook: “Please comment: What I want for Christmas is…” The answers came fast and furious ranging from: More positive sexuality: “Comprehensive Sex Education Programs in Public Schools!” for Dorian Gomez, Art Director & Resident Curator at Erotic Heritage Museum of Las Vegas. […]

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No go – too drunk to consent

Posted On: December 22, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. During the presentation “Promoting Consent, Preventing Coercion” by AWARE as part of SlutTalk on Saturday 3 December, I shared for the first time, how years ago, a male friend rebuffed me when I suggested we went clubbing. Me: “Hey, we should go clubbing together one of these days!” His […]

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Sexually confused – when no is a game

Posted On: December 13, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. As a follow up to an earlier piece “Sexual Consent: When no is really no“, I would like to discuss when the act of saying no is actually a game women play; or, when no is actually a heavily coded yes. When I first read this piece “No” Means […]

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Sexual consent – When no is really no

Posted On: December 12, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. Recently, there has been a lot of discussion about what sexual consent means. As part of SlutWalk Singapore, a fringe event entitled, “Silence Does Not Mean Consent”, was held on Sunday 27 November. AWARE, Singapore’s only gender-equality advocacy group, released two information leaflets: “What is consent?”, as well as […]

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SlutWalk is not about Sluts

Posted On: December 9, 2011

This article first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. As a sexologist in Singapore, I am interested in all news related to sex and sexuality; I’m also subscribed to the news feeds of fellow sexuality educators around the world. When I first read about the outrage of Canadian activists following the suggestion of Constable Michael […]

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Practising sex and mindfulness

Posted On: December 5, 2011

This piece first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. Have you heard the saying that sex can be a form of meditation? Annie Sprinkle, a performance artist and sexuality educator in the United States, combined the words masturbation and meditation to coin the word medabation. You, too, can practise mindful sex if you so desire. You may need […]

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Download: Dr Martha Tara Lee’s Media Kit

Posted On: December 2, 2011

Please download my media kit which attempts to answer most of the commonly asked questions about me: Who is Dr Martha Tara Lee? What is she about? Where has she spoken at? What are the workshops she has conducted? What is Eros Coaching about? Where has she been featured? How do I get in touch […]

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Want anything?

Posted On: November 28, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. In this day and age, are we really suffering for want of… anything? Long before budget airlines, it was a very big deal when people would travel to other countries. So much so that friends and family would go to great lengths to show up at the airport just […]

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Sex – a job or a joy?

Posted On: November 22, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. Is sex a job or a joy to you? Sex means many things to different people, often depending on where they are emotionally, or even the time of their life. For some, it is a chore, a duty, an obligation, simply a way to keep the harmony in a […]

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Female readers ask about masturbation

Female readers ask about masturbation

Posted On: November 16, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. In a previous column Masturbation is Self Love, I tackled men’s most commonly asked questions about masturbation. Female readers wrote in with their questions, and my answers are below: 1. I’m married and am a mother to a nine-year-old. I discovered self-loving in my early thirties and have been secretly […]

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Street Smart or Sex Smart?

Posted On: November 15, 2011

This article first appeared on the CozyCot website. So, how did you select your secondary school after your PSLE (Primary School Leaving Examinations)? How did you decide what career to pursue? Before any major purchase, what would you do before making the final choice? Of course, you must have conducted some form of research into […]

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