Posted On: October 15, 2019
When I was pursuing my diploma in Mass Communications, I got a rare A in one of my school projects on Communications (which surprised even myself). In that module, we were taught to appreciate and understand the difference between verbal and non-verbal communication – and naturally we had the assignment of demonstrating our understanding between […]
Posted On: October 14, 2019
I used to hate (and probably still do to some extent) social gatherings because there was little else to do other than look pretty, sit quietly, and just smile and/ or eat/ drink. My mom would drag me to visit grandparents every weekend till they passed on. It would be loud, noisy, and relentless. I […]
Posted On: October 13, 2019
Thank you Luke Elijah Lim @lukelijah for installing “Love” in my office. It’s a reminder to my clients and me about why I do what I do and what this is really about: Returning to Love. The back story – V came before the other letters. L, O, E came from different shops. Luke and I […]
Posted On: October 13, 2019
Birthdays are what you make of them My ex husband would withdraw himself and sink into depression on each of his birthdays. It wouldn’t be an occasion of acknowledgement, or celebration for him. For him, it was a time he needed to be left alone as he delved on what a loser he is and […]
Posted On: October 8, 2019
Have you ever Scalded your hand with boiling water, and been afraid of drinking any hot drink? Fallen down, and vowed never to run/ skip/ dance again? Failed in something, and vowed not to try again? Been heartbroken, and vowed never to open your heart again? The vows we make doesn’t always serve us. We […]
Posted On: October 4, 2019
What gives you joy? What makes you happy? What causes you to feel ecstatic (or as this Sexologist likes to ask… orgasmic)? For me, these are some of the things. When… The wind blows against my face/ hair I dangle my feet from a swing/ basket chair (like in this pic) I drink tea/ do […]
Posted On: October 2, 2019
It isn’t enough to just show up at work, and be paid for just what we do anymore. We can’t just show up physically and mentally, and park the rest of ourselves at home under the blanket. We are, and rightly so, expected to bring our best game, and show up fully and completely. We […]
Posted On: October 1, 2019
We tend to live in a black-and-white world – things are either right or wrong; good or bad; normal or abnormal. There isn’t much space for the shades in between. This need and fixation for polarity is especially so in areas where this is much ignorance (lack of knowledge/ education) around including in sexuality. As […]
Posted On: September 26, 2019
I studied mass communication (the different ways we communicate with the masses). In my journalism course, it was drummed into us not to say in 10 words what we can in one. Or in other words, the K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple, Stupid) concept. This inevitably became an ethos I adopted for life. People tried to […]
Posted On: September 25, 2019
There is a fine line between of sharing experiences and advice giving. One is relating what happened to you. The other is telling me what you think will help. Most of us do the second because we have had lots of people give us unsolicited advice through our lives telling us “It’s for your own […]
Posted On: September 22, 2019
Alongside my giving up how my peers thought of me as a teenager (due to bullying), I also gave up on obsessing about how I did in tests and exams the moment they were over in school. Remember those classmates you had who would discuss test questions and the “right” answers the moment the test […]
Posted On: September 9, 2019
We tend to live in a black-and-white world – things are either right or wrong; good or bad; normal or abnormal. There isn’t much space for the shades in between. This need and fixation for polarity is especially so in areas where this is much ignorance (lack of knowledge/ education) around including in sexuality. As […]
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