Practising sex and mindfulness

Posted On: December 5, 2011

This piece first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. Have you heard the saying that sex can be a form of meditation? Annie Sprinkle, a performance artist and sexuality educator in the United States, combined the words masturbation and meditation to coin the word medabation. You, too, can practise mindful sex if you so desire. You may need […]

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Want anything?

Posted On: November 28, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. In this day and age, are we really suffering for want of… anything? Long before budget airlines, it was a very big deal when people would travel to other countries. So much so that friends and family would go to great lengths to show up at the airport just […]

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Sex – a job or a joy?

Posted On: November 22, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. Is sex a job or a joy to you? Sex means many things to different people, often depending on where they are emotionally, or even the time of their life. For some, it is a chore, a duty, an obligation, simply a way to keep the harmony in a […]

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Female readers ask about masturbation

Female readers ask about masturbation

Posted On: November 16, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. In a previous column Masturbation is Self Love, I tackled men’s most commonly asked questions about masturbation. Female readers wrote in with their questions, and my answers are below: 1. I’m married and am a mother to a nine-year-old. I discovered self-loving in my early thirties and have been secretly […]

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Street Smart or Sex Smart?

Posted On: November 15, 2011

This article first appeared on the CozyCot website. So, how did you select your secondary school after your PSLE (Primary School Leaving Examinations)? How did you decide what career to pursue? Before any major purchase, what would you do before making the final choice? Of course, you must have conducted some form of research into […]

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Clearing the air on G-spot and female ejaculation

Posted On: November 9, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. As the only certified sexologist and certified sexuality educator in Singapore, there is a wide array of sexuality questions I am asked. However, there are three questions that I continue to be asked, usually worded slightly differently, but the same ones again and again. They involve a mysterious spot […]

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Wear your Raincoat

Posted On: November 8, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. Think of coverings that protect you from inclement weather – whether it’s a raincoat, umbrella, or jacket. Now think of sex. What do you think of? That’s right. I am talking about condoms. The questions below are some of the most commonly asked questions I receive about one of […]

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Masturbation is Self-love

Posted On: October 24, 2011

Mention the word “Masturbation” and what do you think of? While masturbation means different things to different people, it is one of the most misunderstood subjects in the world, as it is enshrined in mystery and secrecy because of the simple reason we speak so little about it. Masturbation may evoke massive levels of guilt […]

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The Moon Within Me

Posted On: October 17, 2011

Lately, my face has been breaking out with acne, especially around my lower jaw. It is not a figment of my imagination; my friends have asked what has happened to my face. Is it due to a lack of sleep? Or a result of too much stress? In fact, it is probably neither. Then I […]

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The Meaning of Life

Posted On: October 11, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. The author of The Millionaire Messenger, Brendon Burchard, has written about how a near-fatal car accident changed his life. As he was at death’s doorway, three questions flashed through his mind: Did I live? Did I love? Did I even matter? If today was the last day of your […]

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On Being Weird

Posted On: October 3, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. I don’t want to be you anymore. It’s too hard. I know I am weird. I have been told that I am weird all my life. In fact, what I do for a living is considered weird, too (I’m not saying my work is actually weird) – I am […]

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Stop Trying So Hard

Stop Trying So Hard

Posted On: September 26, 2011

  I caught up with a girlfriend of mine, Vanessa Chow, some weeks ago. I lamented about all the things I was dissatisfied with in my life. After listening at length (and very patiently, as I probably went on and on), she remarked about how similar we were. She saw how hard I was trying […]

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