Handling Scars from a Mastectomy

Handling Scars from a Mastectomy

Posted On: March 1, 2020

I am thinking about why some women embrace their scars from a mastectomy (removal of the whole breast) and others hate theirs. For those who hate their scars – It is a reminder of cancer, surgery, the fragility of life; the loss of what was and what was there. It may all come together for […]

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Asian Interpretation of The 5 Love Languages

Asian Interpretation of The 5 Love Languages

Posted On: February 27, 2020

Based on bestseller The Five Love Languages, I think Asians parents should do more of the below: Hug us more; Tell us how much they love us, how proud they are of us and in non-academic ways; Buy us unique presents that are just for us only (not a future handme down to our younger […]

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Love Even Though It Will End Anyway

Love Even Though It Will End Anyway

Posted On: February 20, 2020

When I was younger, I didn’t like endings – play time, be a movie, book, drama series (30+ episodes). I would cry at the end of TV shows because it was so good and I enjoyed it so much – why did it have to end? Later as I grew older and understood that everything […]

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O My Heart!

O My Heart!

Posted On: February 18, 2020

I know what the fluttering of my heart feels like (infatuation) the warming of my heart feels like (in love and/ or loved)  the breaking of my heart feels like (heartache)  the bleeding of my heart feels like (ache) the crying of my heart feels like (grief) the cold in my heart feels like (numb/ […]

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A Sexologist Explains: Sexy Time @Mothership.sg

A Sexologist Explains: Sexy Time @Mothership.sg

Posted On: February 15, 2020

This is my first video interview with Mothership.sg. 🙂 Please send some love under comments. 🙂 About Dr. Martha Tara Lee Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on […]

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What Long-term Relationships are Really About

What Long-term Relationships are Really About

Posted On: February 13, 2020

Many years ago, I became good friends (and still am) with an older male friend. He was very tolerate of my childish ways and I couldn’t comprehend the depth and width of his heart and patience until I met his wife. She admitted to me in that one meeting that she has obsessive compulsive tendencies. […]

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Soulmate Relationships Aren’t All Meant to be Happily Ever After

Soulmate Relationships Aren’t All Meant to be Happily Ever After

Posted On: February 13, 2020

Recalling from years ago… my marriage was on the rocks. Psychic: “… You have to leave him or you will lose everything including everything you worked so hard for (aka my practice). In the end… he will still be unfaithful to you… you will lose your mind… leave him. You have to leave him by […]

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Have Some Standards, Pleaze!

Have Some Standards, Pleaze!

Posted On: February 6, 2020

Because of the bullying I received due to being physically unattractive when young (especially by the “cool kids”/ “in group”), I’ve grew up being wary of good-looking people and outrightly avoiding dating them altogether. One day, I told myself that I was done buying into the lie that I didn’t deserve it all – the […]

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Satire about Online Dating

Satire about Online Dating

Posted On: February 3, 2020

Ever notice how dating app profiles state anything along the lines of: “Age is just a number…” when the person is older and insecure about their age (especially 45 and above)? “Looking for young/ positive/ fun/ spontaneous/ bubbly/ liberal/ adventurous open minded people” when what they want is a hook up? “Something casual” when they’re […]

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Better Questions, Better Answers

Better Questions, Better Answers

Posted On: February 1, 2020

I’m learning something through my interactions with my Dad – not shaming or blaming, just stating/ sharing here. Each time, I asked my dad: “How are you?”. He tells me what is happening in his life – facts. I realised I am somewhat disappointed or dissatisfied with his answer. I didn’t know why. After many […]

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Overcome Your Negative Thoughts on Dating

Overcome Your Negative Thoughts on Dating

Posted On: January 27, 2020

Why do I keep attracting ‘losers’, or the ‘wrong person’, you might ask (pattern)? Why are everybody such ‘time wasters’ (you group them)? Why am I so unlucky/ terrible/ horrible when it comes to dating (internalisation)? I am no self-declared love expert. I am first and foremost a sex expert, and also counsel people on […]

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Keep Walking – One Sign of a Toxic Relationship

Keep Walking – One Sign of a Toxic Relationship

Posted On: January 21, 2020

I started to date a new person only a few times, yet he already brought up marriage a couple of times. Recently when he brought it up again, I replied why it won’t work between us. Instead of trying to understand my point of view, he went into blame of how I was hurting him […]

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