Book Review: Break the Grip of Past Lovers

Book Review: Break the Grip of Past Lovers

Posted On: August 15, 2022

I finally finished reading this book “Break the Grip of Past Lovers” by Jumana Sophia a few days ago and have recommended it to no less than three people, and passing on my copy to one. This book has been calling out to me to be read for a long time so much so even […]

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Personal Story: Low or No Sexual Desire is not the same as Asexuality!

Personal Story: Low or No Sexual Desire is not the same as Asexuality!

Posted On: August 10, 2022

I work with a lot of people who identify as woman who say they have low or no sex drive. There are many factors that is linked to that: stress, anxiety, childbirth, relationship dynamics, sexual attitude, lack of sexuality education, mental health, physical health condition etc. Recently I was speaking at a sexuality workshop. At […]

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Personal Story: “I am reminded anew of the need for empathy”

Personal Story: “I am reminded anew of the need for empathy”

Posted On: August 3, 2022

Yesterday I decided on a whim to use the wet wipe in my hand to clean my keyboard with my laptop still on. Not long after, I realised half my keyboard wasn’t working as it should. I was given troubleshooting advice which failed. I scolded myself for giving away my one external keyboard thinking I […]

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Love-experienced as an Inner Compass

Love-experienced as an Inner Compass

Posted On: July 27, 2022

When I’ve been in utterly miserable situations like putting myself in downright nasty and pathetic hostels and going into self-pity, I’ve found myself thinking to myself: “If my parents could see me now, it would break their hearts.” A part of me instinctively knew to preserve myself, because I’m someone who has experienced love, what […]

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My Mom Didn’t Know… I Could Never Reject Her

My Mom Didn’t Know… I Could Never Reject Her

Posted On: July 20, 2022

One of the biggest and most common complaints mom made when she was alive was that we didn’t bring her out to eat enough. Unlike her, food wasn’t and has never been a big deal for me. However since this was obviously important to her, I made it a point to take her out for […]

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I am not a Nobody and Neither are You!

I am not a Nobody and Neither are You!

Posted On: July 13, 2022

I had a mother who used to keep saying that she became a nobody when she retired. I saw how this belief reduced her to behaving like a nobody whose power and sense of self seem to be robbed from her even though she had to be so much more than her job. She was […]

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Your Energy Speaks before You Do

Your Energy Speaks before You Do

Posted On: July 6, 2022

I’m recalling a time when I used to attend a professional group gathering monthly. We were having pre-event food and were actually having a good chat when a new person joined us. He immediately asked, “How are things?” It wasn’t what he said. It was how he said it. None of us wanted to be […]

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Look Out for Your Loved Ones

Look Out for Your Loved Ones

Posted On: July 1, 2022

My dad and I have a system when we travel on public transport. When I take public transport with my dad, I would try to get onboard quickly to “chop” (get) a seat for him. He would be slower and his eyes would then scan the bus or train for me. I would gesture for […]

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Personal Story: Readiness needed to stand up  for LGBT community in Singapore

Personal Story: Readiness needed to stand up for LGBT community in Singapore

Posted On: June 30, 2022

Recently the Singapore government did a call out for public opinions around LGBT. I shared the link on my social media platforms once I determined it was legit. The next day, Oogachaga and Pink Dot shared it too. Within a day, I believe, the government received 30,000 responses and closed the survey on 23 March […]

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Agree? Life is a Series of Ok and Not Ok…

Agree? Life is a Series of Ok and Not Ok…

Posted On: June 29, 2022

Life is a series of ok and not ok. I had running nose and sore throat intermittently yesterday. Covid test negative. I felt hives attack coming and took an antihistamine. I didn’t sleep well through the night as I experienced hot flushes. This morning I was so tired, it took me four attempts before I […]

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This is why I Used to Get Upset with my Mom…

This is why I Used to Get Upset with my Mom…

Posted On: June 22, 2022

I used to get upset with my mom when I saw her giving up her seat on public transport. The irony would strike me: an elderly and unwell person giving up her seat to an even more elderly person. What would not be obvious to outsiders was that my mom was battling stage four breast […]

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Shout out for Getaway: Singapore Gay BL Web Drama Series

Shout out for Getaway: Singapore Gay BL Web Drama Series

Posted On: June 21, 2022

Wanted to do a shout out for Getaway – the first Singapore Gay Web drama series. So important to create content that represents LGBTQIA [lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, (questioning), intersex, asexual, and (agender)] people when the mainstream media has censored and excluded them for so long… or if they were portrayed at all, to […]

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