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On 17 July 2019, I responded to a Facebook group about how to deal with homophobic comments.- They didn’t include me in the conversation.
- They didn’t ask me for my opinion.
- They didn’t seem receptive/ open to learning/ feedback/ change/ growth.
Most of the time, I don’t speak up not because I am afraid, not because I don’t realise that I am capable of influencing change, but because I try to use my discretion/ discernment/ intuition to decide:
- Is this going to make a difference?
- Is it worth it?
- Are they willing/ ready to listen?
Instead of saying, “That’s homophobic. That’s disgusting. That’s terrible. That’s wrong.” (or anything to that effect).
I might ask instead:
- “Would it make a difference if this was somebody you cared for and they told you they were gay/ lesbian/ bisexual/ transgender” OR
- “I imagine this (their sexual orientation) causes them a lot of stress in their lives. Their lives are hard enough as it is, isn’t it? Do you think it matters what we think about them?”
- First inclusive dating app for queer Filipinos
- Safe space where the goal isn’t just to hook up or score a date. It’s a place to build community rather than one-on-one connections.
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Infographic: The Legal Status Of Homosexuality Worldwide. (2016, February 3). Retrieved from https://www.statista.com/chart/4310/global-laws-against-homosexuality-visualised |
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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
