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Have you heard of the expression, “Men don’t grow up; their toys just get bigger and more expensive.”? True, since adult men don’t talk of Matchbox cars, but full-sized motorized ones. What of their electronic devices and gadgets from the iPhone, Wii, mp3 players, to laptops?

While we have all manner of ‘toys’, most people I come across – men or women – do not have any sex toys. As a sexologist, I am curious why this was so. Did they not know how to buy them? Are they too afraid to use them? Are they just simply too expensive? I have been writing reviews of sex toys and books for some time. For the first time, I am ranking my choices for you:

5. R-1 Feel Mont Blanc by Rends

After years of studies researching what makes the best clitoral stimulator, Japanese manufacturer Rends realised that most ladies will twist her wrist to increase the excitement of masturbation. R-1 Feel Mont Blanc aims at stimulating the clitoris, giving the woman the most ultimate masturbation pleasure, combining rotation and vibration motions at the same time. Using the Rends R-1 controller, you will get as many as 50 different vibration sensations. This is one powerful and intense toy! Read my review here.

4. Better than Chocolate by Nomi Tang

Better than Chocolate is the first of Nomi Tang’s line of sensual consumer products. Velvety to the touch, Better than Chocolate is made from skin-friendly materials used in many medical applications. It is intended for external stimulation and exploration of her intimate zones. It fits perfectly in the hand and against the clitoral, labial and nipple areas. Yummy! Read my review here.

3. Sqweel by LoveHoney

You read right. Sqweel is one toy that is capable of making women squeal with delight and pleasure. It is an oral sex simulator which has a wheel of ten teasing pink tongues that promises to lap ladies to orgasm time and time again. Bigger is not always better. Get her the Sqweel because you are human and your tongue does get tired. Read my review here.

2. bcute Classic by B Swish

If you are getting the lady in your life her first sex toy, don’t go rushing for the biggest, fattest, meanest looking vibrator or dildo. You are going to scare her out of her wits. Instead, bcute Classic is my recommendation. Bcute is a small waterproof silicone multi-speed massager that is shaped like a miniature rocket. It comes in light pink, darker pink and purple, and feels great to the touch. Read my review here.

1. Deux by Zini

The Zini Deux is undoubtedly my top choice. It won this year’s prestigious Red Dot Design Award. In case you don’t know, the red dot design award is a large and coveted international product design prize awarded by the Design Zentrum Nordrhein Westfalen in Essen, Germany. The aim of the prize is to honour outstanding design quality and trendsetters. You can’t get a cooler sex toy than that! This his-and-her luxury product can be separated into two parts. What this means is that neither of you will risk being left out. Read my review here.

There you go. My top five sex toy choices for 2010. Have yourself a merry, happy, Christmas!

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Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.