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As a sexologist, I understand that low libido can be a complex issue with many underlying causes. Here are some of the most common reasons why someone might not be interested in sex, along with practical advice for addressing each issue:
- Stress: High levels of stress can interfere with our ability to feel sexual desire. To reduce stress and improve your libido, try relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga.
- Hormonal imbalances: Hormonal changes can impact our sexual desire. If you suspect that a hormonal imbalance is affecting your libido, talk to your doctor about hormone replacement therapy or other treatment options.
- Medications: Certain medications can have side effects that impact our libido. Talk to your doctor about alternative medications or dosage adjustments that may help.
- Relationship issues: Relationship problems can cause stress and anxiety, which can interfere with our sexual desire. Consider couples therapy or relationship counseling to address any underlying issues.
- Body image issues: Negative body image can cause feelings of shame and embarrassment that interfere with our sexual desire. Work on building a positive body image through self-care practices such as exercise and healthy eating.
- Fatigue: Lack of sleep and exhaustion can make it difficult to feel sexual desire. Prioritize getting enough rest and consider making lifestyle changes such as reducing caffeine intake or adjusting your sleep schedule.
- Trauma: Past trauma can have a lasting impact on our sexual desire. Seek out a therapist who specializes in trauma to work through any unresolved issues.
- Work-life balance: The demands of work and family life can leave little time or energy for sex. Make time for intimacy by scheduling date nights or weekend getaways without distractions.
- Childbearing and childrearing duties: The physical and emotional demands of pregnancy, childbirth, and raising children can impact our sexual desire. Seek out support from your partner or a therapist to help manage these challenges.
If you’re struggling with low libido, it’s important to seek out professional help. As a private sexuality counselor, I offer confidential and non-judgmental support to individuals and couples who are experiencing sexual difficulties. Through counseling sessions, we can work together to identify the underlying causes of your low libido and develop practical strategies for addressing the issue.
In addition to seeking professional help, there are also practical steps that you can take to improve your libido naturally. This might include making lifestyle changes such as getting more exercise, eating a healthy diet, and reducing stress. It might also involve exploring alternative treatments such as herbal supplements or acupuncture.
Whatever your situation may be, know that you’re not alone. Low libido is a common issue that affects many people, and there is help available. If you’re ready to take the first step towards improving your sexual health and well-being, contact us today to schedule a private consultation. Together, we can work towards unlocking your sexual energy and improving your overall quality of life.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Masters in Counseling, she launched Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualised and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples who have unconsummated marriage, individuals with sexual inhibitions and discrepancies in sexual desire, men with erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. Dr. Lee welcomes all sexual orientations and is available for online and face-to-face consultations. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.
She is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region (as of 2011) and is also an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor (as of 2018). She strives to provide fun, educational, and sex-positive events and is often cited in the media including Huffington Post, Newsweek, South China Morning Post, and more. She is the appointed Resident Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society, Of Noah.sg, OfZoey.sg, and Virtus Fertility Centre. She is the host of radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio. In recognition of her work, she was named one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).
You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
