Become a Patron!As a relationship counselor and clinical sexologist, I believe that continuous learning and expanding our understanding of human sexuality are crucial for both professionals and individuals seeking to improve their intimate lives. That’s why I’ve curated a comprehensive list of 100 essential sexology books that cover a wide range of topics from sexual health and therapy to the intricacies of human desire and intimacy. Whether you’re a fellow professional in the field or someone interested in enhancing your personal relationships, these books provide invaluable insights and practical knowledge to support a more fulfilling and informed approach to sexuality.
- The 12 Stages of Healing: A Network Approach to Wholeness by Donald M. Epstein
- A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting by Deborah Addington
- A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (Oprah’s Book Club, Selection 61) by Eckhart Tolle
- A Restricted Country by Joan Nestle
- Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women and Couples By Jack Morin PhD and Jack Moris
- Art of the Bedchamber: The Chinese Sexual Yoga Classics Including Women’s Solo Meditation Texts by Douglas Wil
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind – and Keep – Love by Levine, Amir, Heller, Rachel
- Be Love Now: The Path of the Heart by Ram Dass
- Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women by Julia Heiman
- Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
- Clinical Applications of the Polyvagal Theory – The Emergence of Polyvagal-Informed Therapies by Stephen W. Porges and Deb A. Dana
- Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Dr Emily Nagoski
- Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love: A Roadmap to Finding the RIght Partner and Creating the Relationship of your Dreams (Conscious Lesbian Guides) (Volume 1) by Ruth L. Schwartz Ph.D. and Michelle Murrain Ph.D.
- Consent by Nina Raine
- Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide To Men, Sex, And Love’s Deepest Bliss by David Deida
- Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook by Michael Maka
- Encyclopedia of Sex: Second Edition by by Ruth Westheimer
- Enjoy Sex (How, when and if you want to): A Practical and Inclusive Guide by Dr Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock
- Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure: plus Orgasm Coaching, Genital Anatomy, Scar Tissue Healing and more from a pioneering Somatic Sex Educator by Caffyn Jesse
- Erotic Massage: The Tantric Touch of Love by Kenneth Ray Stubbs
- Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl
- Fitness by Penis: An Innovative Method to Enlarge Your Penis and Muscles Simultaneously! by Peter Pandore
- Going Down: The Instinct Guide to Oral Sex by Ben R. Rogers and Joel Perry
- Healers on the Edge: Somatic Sex Education by Caffyn Jesse
- Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship by by Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre
- Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair by Michele Weiner-Davis
- How to Maximize Your Manhood : What Every Red-Blooded Male Needs to Know by Clive Peters
- Human Sexual Response by William Masters and Virginia E. Johnson
- I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings (Virago Modern Classics) by Dr Maya Angelou
- In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter A. Levine
- Kosher Lust: Love Is Not the Answer by Shmuley Boteach
- Kosher Sex: A Recipe for Passion and Intimacy by Shmuley Boteach
- Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men: What Every Man Wants to Know About Making Love to a Woman and Never Asks by Jamie Goddard and Kurt Brungardt
- Lingam Massage: Awakening Male Sexual Energy by Michaela Riedl and Jürgen Becker
- Love, Sex and Long-Term Relationships: What People with Asperger Syndrome Really Really Want by Sarah Hendrickx
- Loving Dominant The: New and Improved by John & Warren, Libby Warren
- Man’s Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust by Viktor E Frankl
- Mating in Captivity: How to keep desire and passion alive in long-term relationships by by Esther Perel
- The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in Mid-Life (Studies in Jungian Psychology by Jungian Analysts) by James Hollis
- Miracle Moms, Better Sex, Less Pain by Belinda Wurn
- More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux
- Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
- Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between by Dr. Martha Tara Lee D.H.S
- Out in the Open, Revised Edition: The Complete Male Pelvis by R. Louis Schultz
- Solving the Mystery of the Pelvic Rotator Cuff: Back Pain, Balance, Bladder and Bowel Health by Janet A. Hulme
- Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer
- Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth by Brad Blanton
- Real Sex: Why Everything You Learnt About Sex Is Wrong by Mike Lousada and Louise Mazanti PhD
- Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship by Eri Kardos
- Rx Sex: Making Love Is the Best Medicine (Positively Sexual) by Barbara Keesling Ph.D
- Satisfaction: The Art of the Female Orgasm by Kim Cattrall
- Science for Sexual Happiness: A Guide to Reclaiming Erotic Pleasure by Caffyn Jesse
- The Secret of the Ring Muscles: Healing Yourself Through Sphincter Exercises by Paula Garbourg
- Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality by Darrel Ray
- Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha
- Sex in Crisis: The New Sexual Revolution and the Future of American Politics by Dagmar Herzog
- Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving by Betty Dodson
- Sex Matters by Osho
- Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense by Mona Charen
- Sex Tips For Straight Women from a Gay Man by Dan Anderson and Maggie Berman
- Sexual Healing: Transforming the Sacred Wound by Peter A Levine
- Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex–and How to Get by Marty Klein
- Sexual Reflexology: Activating the Taoist Points of Love by Mantak Chia and William U. Wei
- Sexy at Any Size: The Real Woman’s Guide To Dating and Romance by Katie Arons
- She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by
- Tantric Orgasm for Women by Diana Richardson
- Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia
- The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking by Oliver Burkeman
- The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margot Anand
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
- The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment by Babette Rothschild
- The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, 20th Anniversary Edition by Ellen Bass
- The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover by David Deida
- The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin
- The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
- The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality by Kimberly Ann Johnson
- The Global Sexual Revolution: Destruction of Freedom in the Name of Freedom by Gabriele Kuby
- The Illustrated Manual Of Sex Therapy Second Edition by Helen Singer Kaplan
- The Joy of Sex: The Ultimate Revised Edition by Alex Comfort
- The Joy of Gay Sex: Fully revised and expanded third editionby Charles Silverstein and Felice Picano
- The Kinsey Institute New Report On Sex by June M. Reinisch
- The Kosher Sutra: Eight Sacred Secrets for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life by Shmuley Boteach
- The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Mantak Chia
- The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt and Janet W. Hardy
- The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure by Bernie Zilbergeld
- The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
- The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings on Authenticity, Connection, and Courage by Brown PhD LMSW
- The Sexual Revolution by Wilhelm Reich
- The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino
- The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners by by Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian
- Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past: A Practical Guide for Understanding and Working with Traumatic Memory by Peter A. Levine
- Trauma: A Practical Guide to Working with Body and Soul (Somatic Sex Educator’s Handbook) by Christiane Pelmas
- Vagina: A New Biography by Naomi Wolf
- Vagina: A re-education by Lynn Enright
- Waking The Tiger: Healing Trauma – The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experience by Peter A. Levine
- Women of the Light: The New Sacred Prostitute by Kenneth Ray Stubbs
- Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston
- Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape by by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti
- Yoni Massage: Awakening Female Sexual Energy by Michaela Riedl
- Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance: An Inquiry into Values by Robert Pirsig
I hope this list of 100 sexology books serves as a valuable resource for your journey towards deeper understanding and appreciation of human sexuality. Each book has been carefully selected to offer diverse perspectives and expert knowledge that can enhance both your professional practice and personal experiences. Remember, the exploration of sexuality is an ongoing process, and staying informed is key to fostering healthy and satisfying relationships. Feel free to share your thoughts or recommendations on these books, and let’s continue the conversation about the vital role of sexology in our lives.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
