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As Singapore’s first sexologist with a doctorate in human sexuality and 15 years of experience, I believe the original article on why women cheat by Her World Singapore overlooks crucial factors. From my practice, it’s clear that infidelity is rarely just about physical desires. The article misses the deeper emotional and relational dynamics that often drive women to stray. In my professional experience, emotional disappointment far outweighs sexual dissatisfaction as the root cause of infidelity. 
Here are 5 additional reasons, based on my lived professional experience with clients, that I feel more accurately reflect why married women cheat:
- Emotional Neglect: Many women feel emotionally abandoned as their partners become engrossed in work or other commitments. This emotional void is one of the leading causes of infidelity, as women seek someone who genuinely cares for their emotional well-being.
- Imbalance in Personal Growth: When partners grow in different directions, emotionally or intellectually, dissatisfaction can set in. Women may turn to someone who aligns more closely with their current aspirations and values.
- Emotional Labor Fatigue: Women often shoulder the emotional responsibility in relationships. When this effort is unreciprocated or unnoticed, they may look for emotional validation elsewhere.
- Longing for Emotional Availability: The demands of Singapore’s fast-paced life often lead to emotional unavailability in marriages. Women who feel emotionally neglected tend to seek affection and understanding from others.
- Invisible Partner Syndrome: As women juggle careers, family, and societal expectations, they may start to feel invisible in their marriages. Infidelity sometimes becomes a means of reclaiming their identity and feeling appreciated again.
These insights, derived from my professional practice, show that emotional dissatisfaction, rather than just sexual boredom or revenge, is a more common motivator for infidelity. Addressing these emotional gaps is crucial for preventing such breakdowns in relationships. 
If you’re seeking expert guidance on emotional and relational issues in your relationship, book a consultation with my team and I here.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Masters in Counseling, she launched Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualised and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples who have unconsummated marriage, individuals with sexual inhibitions and discrepancies in sexual desire, men with erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. Dr. Lee welcomes all sexual orientations and is available for online and face-to-face consultations. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.
She is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region (as of 2011) and is also an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor (as of 2018). She strives to provide fun, educational, and sex-positive events and is often cited in the media including Huffington Post, Newsweek, South China Morning Post, and more. She is the appointed Resident Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society, Of Noah.sg, OfZoey.sg, and Virtus Fertility Centre. She is the host of radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio. In recognition of her work, she was named one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).
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