Testimonial - Becoming a Masterful Lover: Enhancing Intimate Relationships

“An important seminar for men who want to love and respect women – and a rare chance to talk about positive models of male sexuality.

As a straight, cisgender, male who spent their childhood in a conservative part of Australia, I had limited opportunities growing up to learn about, or even discuss, the sex education topics needed to develop a positive view of sexuality. As a result, I went through most of my life largely ignorant (and I still have a lot to learn) about the key skills and knowledge needed to have a mutually healthy and fulfilling sex life with any potential partners.

I attended Dr. Lee’s seminar eager to learn, but with relatively little idea of what would be discussed. The event format itself was a friendly interactive talk, with audiences welcome to ask questions throughout the lecture without fear of being shamed or judged. Important topics were raised, such as having good communication skills with your partner, getting informed consent, and making sure everyone gets appropriate aftercare.

After the seminar ended, I found myself wishing that these classes would be made widely available to young adults, perhaps as an optional course at universities or TAFE colleges, as it would have helped me, and other people, from having a lot of sexual hang ups earlier in life.

It’s important to acknowledge that I can only write from my relatively privileged perspective as a straight cisgender male, which this seminar caters to (apparently a version for women is also available). On the other hand:

Lots of men experience problems with their relationships and sex lives which may be different from what women experience;
Theres an abundance of myths and bad advice floating around online (and in society generally) about how men should act in a relationship, a lot based on notions of toxic masculinity;
Not all men have trusted friends or family members that they can honestly discuss these issues with; and
Helping men develop or improve their sense of positive sexuality helps both men and women.

Given these circumstances, I would encourage men who were at all interested, or curious, about developing a more positive sexual version of themselves to attend this seminar. If nothing else, you’ll be in safe space with other people who likely have similar concerns to you, and it will be a good opportunity to ask questions that you might otherwise be too afraid
to ask.” – Dennis, Melbourne, 14 April 2024

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Masters in Counseling, she launched Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualised and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples who have unconsummated marriage, individuals with sexual inhibitions and discrepancies in sexual desire, men with erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. Dr. Lee welcomes all sexual orientations and is available for online and face-to-face consultations. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.

She is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region (as of 2011) and is also an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor (as of 2018). She strives to provide fun, educational, and sex-positive events and is often cited in the media including Huffington Post, Newsweek, South China Morning Post, and more. She is the appointed Resident Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society, Of Noah.sg, OfZoey.sg, and Virtus Fertility Centre. She is the host of radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio. In recognition of her work, she was named one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).