Become a Patron!While masturbation means different things to different people, it is one of the most misunderstood subjects in the world, as it is enshrined in mystery and secrecy because of the simple reason we speak so little about it.
Masturbation may evoke massive levels of guilt and shame, as many of us were told from when we were young not to touch ourselves “down there”.
Frequently Asked Questions on Masturbation
While masturbation means different things to different people, it is one of the most misunderstood subjects in the world, as it is enshrined in mystery and secrecy because of the simple reason we speak so little about it.
Masturbation may evoke massive levels of guilt and shame, as many of us were told from when we were young not to touch ourselves “down there”.
1. Is masturbation bad for you?
Masturbation is perfectly healthy and an important part of sexual health. Like all sex, masturbation is related to our physical, emotional, psychological, social, and even spiritual state. Be aware of your body – watch for signs of soreness or sensitivity, and slow down if needed.
2. Does frequent masturbation cause premature ejaculation?
Masturbation is one of the best ways for men to learn about their bodies and develop confidence about their ejaculatory control in a pressure-free environment.
Using lubricant, slowing down on the stroking action when you masturbate and letting yourself enjoy the sensations more are all part of the learning process. So stroke away and take your time.
3. Should I masturbate before sex to last longer the second time?
To last longer, you can learn the stop-start technique by yourself, which is essentially slowing down before reaching the point-of-no-return.
Breathing more deeply, being more present, and engaging in more foreplay will all help you to last longer.
Masturbating beforehand can actually reduce your own pleasure. There is nothing wrong in masturbating early in the day or as many times as your body desires.
4. Will I run out of sperm if I ejaculate too many times in a day?
There is no limit in the amount of sperm that a man’s body produces. If you ejaculate several times in a row, while you may have less sperm in each subsequent ejaculation, it will return to normal levels within a day. Doctors actually remind men to ejaculate frequently to help keep the prostate gland healthy.
5. Is it normal to masturbate after marriage?
Many men and women continue to masturbate when they are in a relationship, even those who are married. It does not imply that there is something wrong in the relationship.
Some of the reasons married people still continue to masturbate include using it to release stress, not wanting to go through the whole process of sex, as a quick energiser, stress reliever or when partner is not available.
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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
