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Your Questions about Sex Toy Injuries or Mishaps Answered
How Often do You hear about Sex Toy Injuries or Mishaps?
Not often. Most reported sex-related injuries don’t involve sex toys at all – for instance typically a household item that isn’t meant for anal use like shampoo bottles, hairbrushes, and bananas.
Mishaps that typically involve foreign objects being used in place of sex toys disappearing in the body or getting stuck in or on certain body parts.
Use objects as they are intended and you’d be fine!
What Tends to Lead to Sex Toy Injuries or Mishaps?
- Not cleaning them properly
- Not understand what they’re made of
- Misusing them – putting them in the wrong place
- Going between orifices without protection
- Getting them wetter than they should be – not all sex toys are waterproof
How would You Counsel People to Avoid Common Sex Toy Injuries or Mishaps?
Use your sexual aids properly, clean them properly and keep them properly.
If in doubt, check with your sexual wellness boutique aka sex toy shop.
They’re well versed about the products they carry and will be happy to answer your questions.
What Should People Do if a Sex Toy Injury or Mishap happens?
If you’re experiencing internal discomfort or pain, stop.
Seek immediate medical attention anytime you experience intense internal pain, burning, or other discomfort, or if you’re experiencing external bleeding or pain.
What Should People Do if a Sex Toy Injury or Mishap happens?
Vulvar tissue can become even more delicate when using hormonal birth control or during hormonal changes like pregnancy or menopause. The penis and vulva are also highly innervated, meaning they have a lot of nerve endings so minor scratches or pricks can cause noticeable discomfort.
How to Support Your Partner if the Injury isn’t Severe
Any injury to any erogenous zone can be scary, even traumatic. Your job is to be as comforting, supportive, and sensitive as possible when supporting somebody with an injury.
That means:
- Fishing for the toy inside the vagina, if asked
- Driving or accompanying them to the doctor or emergency care, if asked
- Offering to pay for or split the cost of the doctor visit
- Learning whether there’s anything you could have done to reduce the chances of this happening, like used more lube, gone more slowly, or checked in more frequently
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References:
- Hay, M. (2021, December 17). The most common sex toy injuries — and how to avoid them. Mashable SEA. https://sea.mashable.com/life/18642/the-most-common-sex-toy-injuries-and-how-to-avoid-them
- Kassel, G. (2021, January 4). Sex Toy Injuries Are Rare — but Possible. Here’s How to Handle Them. Healthline. https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/sex-toy-injury-treatment-prevention#tips-for-prevention
- Jurberg, A. (2022, January 5). 5 Sex Toy Accidents Seen By Doctors (And Tips To Avoid Them). Medium. https://medium.com/sexography/5-sex-toy-accidents-seen-by-doctors-and-tips-to-avoid-them-4c60b0aa157d
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
