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8 July 2022: How to speak up while having sex? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist
Communicating during sex is just a good way to tell your partner what you’re into, your partner isn’t a mind reader and telling and asking your partner exactly what both of you want can make the experience more satisfying.
Nonverbal cues, including moving someone’s hand where you want it to go, moaning when they do something you like, or shaking your head when something makes you uncomfortable, all count as forms of communication. Both verbal and nonverbal communication are associated with more communication satisfaction and thus more sexual satisfaction.
3 June 2022: Why don’t I feel like having sex? | Answers Dr. Martha Lee
What to do if you don’t feel like having sex with your partner? Dr. Martha Tara Lee. a clinical sexologist and Relationship Counsellor gives four tips to deal with this.
27 May 2022: Tips for anal sex | Featuring Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Masturbation is self-stimulating your genitals in a sexual way to the point of reaching an orgasm. It is a very common behaviour among men and women and is a very normal thing. However, there are a lot of myths around masturbation and self-pleasure as well as side effects of overdoing it. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses whether masturbation can lead to weakness in the body and discusses safe ways to masturbate.
Discussed in the video:
- Why you should relax and take things slowly during anal sex? To avoid bleeding and tearing which could lead to further diseases and infections.
- Is lubricant necessary for anal sex?
- What type of lubricant should you use for anal sex? Silicone base lubricants are suggested for anal sex as they stay on the skin.
- How to stay relaxed during anal sex?
- How to prevent cross contamination during anal sex? Preventing cross contamination will reduce chances of infections.
5 May 2022: Right way to do oral sex | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Oral sex is just as important as penetrative sex and doing that right is essential. But often many of us do not understand what is the right way to go about it? Is oral sex healthy? Should there be any particular set of precautions one should be keeping in mind before as well as while performing oral sex? While the questions around oral sex are endless, Please note that oral sex is something people engage in to derive pleasure. Hence here are a few basic facts about oral sex that you should know so that your experience of oral sex can be of pleasure and not stress. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses some ways to have better oral sex.
Discussed in the video:
- Should you brush before going for oral sex?
- Should you worry about bad breath before going for oral sex?
- What is the right way to perform a blowjob?
- Should one accidentally bite the penis for better sexual arousal?
22 April 2022: How to have better sex? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Sex isn’t just fun. It’s good for you too. Every orgasm releases a flood of the hormone oxytocin, which improves your mood. Regular sex can improve your heart health, reduce stress and depression, improve your self-esteem, and help you sleep better. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses some ways to have better and healthy sex.
Discussed in the video:
- How to establish boundaries before having sex?
- How to communicate before having sex?
- How to communicate while having sex?
- How to help your partner understand what you like in bed?
7 January 2022: Things men love in bed | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist
What do men actually like in bed? That’s a question many women don’t have an answer to. Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses 5 things men love in bed.
Discussed in the video:
- Should you be gentle with your male partner in the beginning?
- How to deal with the phallus once it’s erected?
- How to have fun and make sex about giving and receiving pleasure?
- How important is overall intimacy for more sexual pleasure?
- Is everyone different in bed?
5 November 2021: How to have better sex? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist
Discussed in this video:
- How to get to know your own body for better sex?
- How to know if your partner is the right one to have sex with?
- How to have positive self-talk and attitude towards sex?
- How to improve communication with your partner regarding sex?
- How to acquire an attitude of life-long learning for better sex?
29 October 2021: Things Women Love in Bed | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist
Discussed in this video:
- Do women like being soft and slow in bed?
- Do women like sensuous and consistent touching in bed?
- Do women like an indirect and non-linear approach from their partners?
- Do women like a variety of positions to be tried in bed?
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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
