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Now that Singapore is opening up to 10 max for social gatherings, I’m being pressured at all fronts to resume in-person workshops. I’m ok with mask-on situations but when I run a BJ workshop obviously there is the practice-on-carrot aka mask-off component to it.
And the one time exemption I did an in-person BJ workshop when Singapore opened to max 8 last year, I was really uncomfortable with the whole thing. It was on the repeated insistence of friends and I was angry with myself for saying yes.
I have self-isolated myself for most of the last two years – limiting contact to clients, family and only a few friends. I’ve hosted four virtual festivals, presented at numerous virtual festivals, and conducted countless virtual events by now.
I don’t know anybody who doesn’t know someone who has caught Covid. There is obviously no shame in catching it. As a highly sensitive person with demonstrated terrible immune system, I do know I’m susceptible to catching it hence the prolonged self-isolation. I haven’t caught Covid yet.
It’s not a matter of getting Covid over with. One doesn’t know for sure the effects of Covid on different individuals and getting it doesn’t mean not getting it again.
I view it as part of my responsibility as a person working with vulnerable clients – people with cancer and disabilities to self isolate. I’m not ready to do mask-off in-person workshops. Hence no BJ workshops.
Just because others do it doesn’t mean I need to. I’m not ready to do it whatever the amount.
It’s just not worth it for me. Health before money.
(Written: 2 April 2022)
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
