“My husband & I went to seek Martha’s help as I suspected I had vaginismus. Prior to that, I’ve seen several female gynae who made me feel demoralised and hurt due to their comments. I did some checks & scans but there were no abnormalities. I explained to them when and the type of pain I experience during sex. At times the pain was so bad that I feel pain when I pee and cannot even sit down after sex. 

One old female gynae even said I’m too sensitive and my husband will be scared to touch me. Another dismissed my condition saying it is unlikely vaginismus as she could insert a speculum. The last gynae I saw said vaginismus is very hard to diagnose and that they need to run all the possible tests before confirming it. That was when I decided enough was enough. These doctors were not empathetic at all. I wanted to find a sex therapist who could help. 

I could feel Martha was warm and compassionate during our meeting. She taught us the different techniques and even positions for beginners as both my husband and I don’t have much experience. We tried over several months and finally experienced penetrative sex without pain. Both of us were so surprised as we did not expect it. 

I’d like to urge all women suffering from vaginismus to seek help from a professional sex therapist. Lastly, I’d like to say a big THANK YOU to Martha for being so encouraging.”

– Anonymous Client, 8 Feb 2022 (testimonial used with permission)

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.