Become a Patron!Autism is a spectrum and a typical characteristic of autism to have a low Emotional Intelligence (EQ). Being emotional and having emotional reactions is not necessarily EQ. Some Autistics study of emotions so they learn to recognise and manage emotions positively by developing their understanding. Here are some resources on the market you could explore if curious about this subject:
| 1. Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and Long-Term Relationships: Fully Revised and Updated with DSM-5® Criteria by Ashley Stanford Fully updated for DSM-5, the new edition of Ashley Stanford’s bestselling book continues to offer invaluable relationship guidance to couples where one or both partners are on the autism spectrum. By exploring Asperger/ASD traits step-by-step, the book emphasizes the value of understanding and offers solutions that have worked for other couples. |  |
| 2. Love and Asperger’s: Practical Strategies To Help Couples Understand Each Other and Strengthen Their Connection by Kate McNulty LCSW Everyday techniques to strengthen empathy and connection in neurodiverse couples Life with a partner whose neurotype is different than yours is filled with moments that are surprising, unique, and sometimes challenging. If one of you is on the Autism Spectrum and the other is neurotypical, this Aspergers books is a helpful and inclusive guide to understanding the nature of your relationship and navigating its particular obstacles―while keeping your love for each other at the center of everything. |  |
| 3. Loving Someone with Asperger’s Syndrome: Understanding and Connecting with your Partner by Cindy Ariel Loving Someone with Asperger’s Syndrome is an essential resource for anyone in a relationship with a partner who has Asperger’s. This book explains how Asperger’s may cause problems in a relationship and offers help for communicating, coparenting, and building an emotional connection with a partner who has Asperger’s syndrome. |  |
| 4. The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): A Guide to Living in an Intimate Relationship with a Partner who is on the Autism Spectrum by Maxine Aston Does your other half have Asperger Syndrome (AS) or do you suspect that he or she is on the autism spectrum? This quick and helpful guide provides all the information you need for relationship success with your AS partner. Maxine Aston offers relationship advice that draws on over a decade of counselling experience. |  |
| 5. Troubleshooting Relationships on the Autism Spectrum: A User’s Guide to Resolving Relationship Problems by Ashley Stanford Don’t you wish relationships came with a manual? This user’s guide to relationships adopts a practical troubleshooting approach to resolving difficulties that will greatly appeal to the logical minds of people on the autism spectrum and help their partners. It covers key problem areas such as communication, mindblindness, co-habiting, and intimacy. |  |
| 6. 22 Things a Woman Must Know If She Loves a Man with Asperger’s Syndrome by Rudy Simone This book looks at 22 common traits that women may discover when they are dating, living with or married to a man with Asperger’s Syndrome. Simone explores Asperger’s relationships with honesty and understanding, drawing on research and personal experience to inform and advise women with AS partners. |  |
Last one: Not a book but a website
1. An Introduction to Emotion Coaching
Learn how to help your children navigate their feelings through being an emotion coaching parent.
Do check out my other blog post on Sex ed books for Parents & Educators Working with Individuals with ASD.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
