Become a Patron!Sexual Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in sexual activity. Consent should be clearly and freely communicated.
What Sexual Consent Looks Like
What Sexual Consent Looks Like
Sexual Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in sexual activity. Consent should be clearly and freely communicated.
Sexual Consent cannot be given by individuals:
1. Underage
2. Intoxicated
3. Incapacitated by drugs or alcohol
4. Asleep or unconscious
1. Clear – Consent is clear and unambiguous. Silence is not consent. Never assume you have consent — you should clarify by asking.
2. Ongoing – You should have permission for every activity at every stage of a sexual encounter.
3. Coherent – Every participant in sexual activity must be capable of granting their consent.
4. Voluntary – Consent should be given freely and willingly. Repeatedly asking someone to engage in a sexual act until they eventually say yes is not consent, it’s coercion.
References:
- Santos-Longhurst, A. (2019, February 13). Your Guide to Sexual Consent. Healthline. https://www.healthline.com/health/guide-to-consent#asking-for-consent
- Vrangalova, Z. (2016, April 19). Consent 101: What It Looks Like, What It Sounds Like, How to Give It, and How to Get It. Teen Vogue. https://www.teenvogue.com/story/consent-how-to
- What Consent Looks Like | RAINN. (2021). The Rape Abuse and Incest National Network. https://www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent
- What is sexual consent? (2021). Rape Crisis England & Wales. https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/about-sexual-violence/sexual-consent/
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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
