Become a Patron!As a certified Sexologist with a doctorate in human sexuality and AASECT sexuality educator, I’ve been working more than 400 clients with Vaginismus for the past seven years. Vaginismus is vaginal tightness and it makes penetration difficult or impossible. Subscribe to my free video series here.
In seeking to overcome Vaginismus, many women do extensive online research only to end up even more confused, put off, and scared from the negative stories shared by others. And contrary to a lot of online articles and literature on overcoming Vaginismus, it is less about tips, tricks, techniques, and definitely not a “see if we get lucky today” kind of thing. Instead, the process of learning to listen to your body, getting aroused and staying with sensation, and communicating with your partner are keys. Many of my clients benefit from even having one coaching session from me, and many of them go on to overcoming Vaginismus for good – and even having a baby subsequently.
Some of my clients have found using dilators and vibrators useful in practising to overcome Vaginismus. Many do not know where to buy them. These are some choices available at U4Ria. I have recommended many clients to them over the years – and do not get a single cent of referral from them.
1. Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Dilator Set Purple Dilator With 4 Sizes And Sleeve
Dr. Laura Berman’s Dilator Set has a vibrating, multi-speed dilator handle with 3 interlocking, graduated stacked dilator sleeves for custom girth selection and a soft universal sleeve. This set is ideal for muscle relaxation, stimulation and to strengthen your pelvic muscles. Dr. Laura Berman is the director of the Berman Center in Chicago, a specialized healthcare facility for women and couples where she provides general and sexual therapy. She is also an assistant clinical professor of OB-GYN and psychiatry at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University. Dr. Berman has been working as a sex educator, researcher and therapist for 20 years.
Whether you struggle with discomfort during intercourse, sexual anxiety, or simply want to work on your pelvic floor strength, the Berman Center Dilator Set has everything you need to train your vaginal muscles and pelvic floor to increase pleasure in your sex life. It is intended to assist woman in having more pleasurable sex. Whether you want to learn to have sex without discomfort or you just want to train your pelvic floor muscles to enjoy sex more, the dilator set is a great option.
2. CalExotics Inspire Vibrating Dilator 3-Piece Set
The 3-piece Inspire Vibrating Dilator Kit is designed with your comfort and pleasure in mind. The ergonomically curved tools are thoughtfully created to improve intimate experiences and to aid sexual health, while providing soothing, gentle vibrations to aide in pleasure.
Each piece is made from phthalate free, silky soft, pastel pink premium silicone. Two sizes are included for comfortable, gradual dilation. Each dilator has a smooth and sleek angled shape, and a finger loop for easy use. The slender stimulator is easy to insert into the base of either dilator. The simple to use design is operated by the single click button. Insertion of the dilators restores and revives vaginal strength and can also be beneficial in easing discomfort. For a comfortable application, it is recommended that you use a quality lubricant.
Train your vaginal muscles to relax and become used to penetration. When you’re ready for the next level, introduce the vibrating stimulator for added pleasurable sensations. The dilators are also suitable for recovery use after surgery.
3. CalExotics Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit 5 Piece Set
The 5-piece Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit is designed with your comfort in mind. The ergonomically curved tools are thoughtfully created to improve intimate experiences and to aid sexual health.
Each piece is made from phthalate free, silky soft, pastel pink premium silicone, and range in size for comfortable, gradual dilation. Each dilator has a smooth and sleek angled shape, and a finger loop for easy use. Insertion of the dilators restores and revives vaginal strength and can also be beneficial in easing discomfort. For a comfortable application, it is recommended that you use a quality lubricant.
The Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit can be used as a vaginal trainer, or for treating vaginismus. By using a vaginal dilator set, at home, you can train your vaginal muscles to relax and become used to penetration. The dilators are also suitable for recovery use after surgery.
Simple to use, this product is perfect for beginners. Get ready to enjoy the peak in sensual pleasure. Ergonomically designed to fit both your hand and your body, you’ll find pleasure and ease are all yours. Enjoy the ultimate in sensual satisfaction. For the ultimate in satisfaction, this kit comes with multiple toys to choose from. Go ahead and choose the experience you crave.
The Queen Bee with patented PulsePlate Technology. Founded on medical science and patented across the world, the Queen Bee is a powerful next-generation clitoral stimulator.
Utilising our multi-award winning PulsePlate Technology to deliver a unique and intense experience, the Queen Bee is setting new standards for female toys. Unlike conventional sex toys, the Queen Bee uses a “piston”-type mechanism in order to generate extremely deep and rumbly oscillations.
These high-amplitude oscillations are significantly more powerful and intense than standard vibrations and often lead to a unique and very powerful orgasm.
What is PulsePlate Technology? – PulsePlate Technology is the patented “piston”-like system the Queen Bee uses to deliver high-amplitude oscillations rather than the low-amplitude vibrations typically found in conventional sex toys. Although oscillators are commonplace in the medical world, Hot Octopuss is the first to bring this technology to the
sex toy market.
5. 5 Function Precious Metal Slim- Slender Slim
The Slender Slims are metallic in color and look fantastic, feminine design with intense power! while feeling incredibly great inside with their perfectly straight shafts and round tips.
These great toys will put you at ease in no time at all. You’ll get gentle, yet incredibly powerful stimulation from the easy to use soft push button control at the end.
There are 5 different type of vibrations including; pulsation, escalation, and vibration and they’ll be perfect right at your fingertips.
Each Slender Slims will make you shiver and shudder with pure ecstasy that you’ve never experienced before.
Introducing the most discreet design from X-tassie collection, Cocomini. A smart and intelligent generation, based on ultimate technology in pleasure industry. This small but powerful vibrator bar with five different vibration delights. Even in the most powerful position, the Coco Mini is barely audible. Sensual multi-functional vibrator of absolute excellence.
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Cocomini uses high capacity rechargeable battery including USB charging terminal, lasting up to 4 hours of usage after 2 hours of charging. It is easy to charge via a USB port on any computer / laptop. The product is packaged in a decent gift box which comes with a nice pouch and a comprehensive manual in English, German, French, Spanish, Japanese and Korean.
7. Hitachi Magic Wand Original Massager Rechargeable
The Magic Wand is proud to have earned Americans trust for over 30 years. Today, there is an even more convenient choice for lovers of the Magic Wand: The Magic Wand Rechargeable. This is a cordless version that offers the freedom of enjoying the Magic Wand almost anywhere, anytime.
The Magic Wand Rechargeable pleases with the same, strong, penetrating vibrations as the Original and comes with a silicone head, 4 intensity levels and 4 great vibration patterns. It is delivered with its own charging adapter and a 7ft cord. As an added bonus, the Magic Wand Rechargeable can be used both cordless and plugged in (“plug-and-play”).
Many have tried to imitate the Hitachi Magic Wand, and most have failed. There is only one original. This is a strong vibrator, and lasts for years to come.
To ensure quality service and possible discount at U4Ria, you can mention my name “Dr Martha Lee”. Unlike other educators who recommend products that benefit themselves in some way, I do not benefit whatsoever from mentioning U4Ria and instead work with them in highlighting quality products in my desire to help more people.
While you’re here, you may wish to know about Sex Possible – Get yourself out of pain into pleasure!
Clinical Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee created Sex Possible to provide an online learning option for women who have Vaginismus. She has been in practice for more than seven years and during this time she has worked with more than 400 women who have vaginismus. Martha has a Ph.D in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, United States and numerous trainings in domains such as coaching, sex coaching, sex therapy and practical counseling. After years of ongoing research and client experience, she created a 28-day vaginismus online coaching program called Sex Possible that is aimed towards couples and singles so as to be able to help women who are not located in Singapore.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and has most recently completed her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling. In practice for more than seven years, she is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution on the OMTimes Radio Network. She has published three books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga and From Princess to Queen.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
