Even when one is not a teenager anymore, the experience of a memorable and perfect first kiss with your beau does not really fade away. No matter how anxious one feels, that kiss with somebody special is always something great to anticipate.

First-time kissers usually have a lot of questions in mind. How will I make my first kiss special? What if I screw it up? What if I don’t get the first kiss right? Most of the time, these questions tend to make the kisser very nervous, making him ruin the most-awaited moment.

In order to achieve the perfection of this first kiss, you must maintain your cool. Panicking will get you nowhere; the key is to be at ease. Here’s how:

• Find the perfect spot – Finding the right venue for the first kiss is a must. Naturally, one must be at ease with the environment, with little to no distractions in order to concentrate on nothing else but your movements and that of your partner. Always keep in mind that too many distractions can ruin a passionate kiss.

• Fresh breath – Normally, when you anticipate that someone will kiss you, you’re concerned about what your partner will say about your breath. To avoid this kind of dilemma, make sure you brush your teeth before meeting them. If it is not possible, bring a breath spray, mints or gum to freshen up your breath.
• Wait for the right moment – Never ask for a kiss. You certainly would want the first kiss to be extra special and asking for one will only mean forcing someone into the act.
• Close your eyes when kissing –You definitely wouldn’t want to make a bad impression, so try not to open your eyes when kissing. Furthermore, kissing someone who has their eyes open is definitely creepy.

Breathe. Relax. Kissing is supposed to be fun. Just go with the flow and relish that first lip-locking moment.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.