When Peggy Kleinplatz of the faculty of medicine at the University of Ottawa put out a call for “great lovers” across Canada and the United States, she and her team were deluged with old married people.

Through long interviews with 30 men and women over the age of 60 who had been in relationships of 25 years or longer, the several ingredients for “great sex” emerged:

• Being Present; Connection;
• Deep Sexual And Erotic Intimacy;
• Extraordinary Communication;
• Interpersonal Risk-Taking And Exploration;
• Authenticity;
• Vulnerability; and
• Transcendence.

The findings were not a surprise since I believe that the best sex possible is with the one you love and are able to be open, honest and connected with. If you feel you have lost that initial spark, you may benefit from sex coaching to get back to discovering yourself sexually.